Trust

So I had someone bring up "trust" to me today. Maybe that it is possibly that I don't let go and put all of my trust in God - that I hold back still and try to control my own life. I'm still processing that possibly valid point. It was brought up to me in pure kindness. I'm not angry, just trying to process it. I feel like so much has gone on in my life in during 2009 that at times I have just done my best to cope with each day as it came and figure out how to go on. Truly my world was rocked to its very core this year. In a moment, my life was altered and my path forever changed. In a lot of ways for good, but a difficult journey. I really will write about all of that one day, when I figure out how to put it in words. But to go on, I feel like the only way I got through it all was because of God and knowing Him and to have some tell you that you don't trust in Him enough stings a bit. How exactly is one to take that? I know we all can grow closer to Him and that our relationship with Him is constantly growing and changing and evolving. I'm just having a hard time processing what was said to me. Any advise out there?